Del Col finds that as the modern groom takes on more of the financial responsibility for the big day—traditionally financed by the parents—he is becoming a bigger part of the planning process. "Some grooms are doing everything but the dress and bridesmaids. The groom of today can pick, with the bride, how involved he wants to be."
As men have more say, the look of weddings has evolved accordingly. "It is not just the bride's day," he says. "Gone is the all-pink wedding as men have greater input and impact."
Contibutions from the groom can also save a lot of pre-marital heartache on both sides. "The brides don’t feel alone in planning and making decisions," Del Col says. "And if you're involved from the start, you'll know what's happening and where the money is going. Otherwise, some grooms have a panic in the final stages when suppliers need to be paid."
Having said that, Del Col recommends ceding decision-making to the bride on the elements that are most important to her. Be sure to follow a to-do list and have faith in your suppliers. "If you pick the right ones, they have years of experience in planning weddings. Let them do the work for you and trust them."
Del Col's rules for grooms: no sunglasses at the ceremony and no chewing gum. "Try not to drink too much beforehand and then enjoy your night—it goes quickly. Stay focused and have fun."
Anthony Del Col appears at the Ultimate Wedding Planning Party on August 25, 2011, a boutique event at Sydney Opera House where couples can consult with industry experts while quaffing canapés and champagne.
